Habits are the invisible architecture of our lives. Research shows that around 40% of our behavior is repeated almost daily. Only by getting to know ourselves will we be able to create a new supportive architecture of habits in our lives. Discover what drives you. Are you:
An upholder: ‘I do what others expect of me and what I expect from myself.’
If you’re an upholder, try scheduling. Set a specific regular time for your habitual activity, then repeat. Habits grow strongest and fastest when they are repeated in predictable ways.
A questioner: ‘I do what I think is best. If it doesn’t make sense, I won’t do it.’
If you’re a questioner, get clarity. The clearer you are about what you value and what you expect from yourself, the more likely you are to stick to habits.
An obliger: ‘I do what I have to. I hate to let others down, but I let myself down.’
If you’re an obliger, take responsibility. If we believe someone is watching, we behave differently. Tell people your goals and make yourself accountable.
A rebel: ‘I do what I want. If you tell me to do something, I’m less likely to do it.’
If you’re a rebel, challenge what you tell yourself. Switch, ‘I’m lazy’, to: ‘If I say I’ll show up, I’ll show up.’